Overcoming Challenges

An article from Jamie Turner
– Randy Wolgemuth

When you face a challenge, how do you handle it? 

Do you crumble? Or do you face it bravely and push through?

Something tells me that you’re the kind of person who faces challenges bravely and pushes through. 

Good for you. 

I came across an article about resilience by a Harvard-trained psychologist named Dr. Cortney Warren.

I thought you’d find what Dr. Warren wrote to be helpful, so I’m sharing it here: 

Emotionally resilient people are deliberate in their response to painful experiences. 

In other words, they allow themselves to grieve, remind themselves of what they are grateful for, and focus on what they can control in the moment.

All this raises the question, “How can I become more emotionally resilient?”

Here are some phrases you can use every day to help you get through the challenges you might be facing.

  • “I can get through this.” Emotional resilience is associated with grit and mental toughness. There is an understanding that we have to be strong and overcome adversity without letting it break us.
  • “I’m not going to let myself be a victim.” Being resilient means that when you experience the pain of mistreatment, you shift your perspective from “I’m a victim and powerless to help myself” to “How can I grow from this?”
  • “Life is hard.” Resilience is associated with a basic acceptance that life isn’t always fair, and that we all experience emotional hardships. Accepting this truth helps people to not take things as personally when undesirable events happen.
  • “This, too, shall pass.” Resilient people believe that setbacks and challenges can feel horrible in the moment, but that nothing in life is permanent. It doesn’t mean that the pain will go away entirely, but it does mean that we can work to make them less traumatic and damaging to us over time.
  • “What can I learn from this?” Openness to experiences and the ability to shift your perspective from “Why did this happen to me?” to “What can I take from this to help me grow?” can help you better navigate through life’s inevitable ups and downs.
  • “I need some time.” A key component of resilience is emotional flexibility, or the ability to regulate your feelings and reduce their intensity in a given situation. Mastery over this can help us feel empowered during challenging times.
  • “I still have things to be grateful for.” We’re hardwired to notice threats to our well-being. But people who are resilient find a way to turn towards the positive, even in times of difficulty.
  • “It is what it is.” The key to resilience is not denying reality or seeking out a reason that makes us feel better about why something happened. When we arrive at a place of radical acceptance, the situation has less power over us.
  • “I’m letting this go.” Staying mired in resentment, wanting retribution, or focusing on payback keeps us holding on to past pain. Developing resilience requires getting to a place where we can see difficult life circumstances for what they are and actively choosing to let them go.
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